Relationship / couples counselling

What is relationship / couples counselling?

The relationships we have with those around us evolve over time. Sometimes this can be a painful process, particularly when the pressures of life and other aspects (such as personalities) are brought to bear on it. At times relationships can get stuck in cycles or patterns that are very damaging, or can be faced with challenges that are very difficult for them to overcome in a fruitful or productive way. Relationship / couples counselling (these terms are often used interchangeably) is a process designed to both understand what is going wrong in a relationship and to find ways of making things better, if this is at all possible.

How does relationship / couples counselling work?

Relationship / couples counselling works in the same way as most forms of therapy, i. e. it helps people express their experiences of what the 'problem' is and to find a way of improving things through increased understanding, changed perceptions and by doing things differently.

Sometimes all that is needed is time and space in the presence of an experienced and impartial person, able to structure the session usefully and ask the right questions at the right times. At other times it requires a more formal approach, such as through the provision of specific techniques or cognitive-behavioural strategies (e.g. learning about 'triggers' and 'flashpoints'). On occasion the therapy may involve asking one or more partners to undertake specific work by themselves, such as learning to manage anger or deal with an addiction.

What are common reasons for seeking relationship / couples counselling?

There are a range of reasons people seek relationship / couples counselling including: significant conflict; infidelity; commitment issues; adjustment problems; grief; family difficulties; and concurrent difficulties, such as depression.

Can people seek relationship / couples counselling if their partner won't / can't attend?

Yes, this is actually very common. Sometimes the problems we have with our relationships are at the root of many of the difficulties we encounter, but this may not be a view shared by our partner. Speaking about relationships issues with a professional psychologist, counsellor or CBT therapist can be of great help, even if our partner is not present.

Is relationship / couples counselling effective?

Yes, it has a proven outcome in helping people experiencing relationships difficulties. It helps to both clarify what the difficulties are and to determine how these may be best addressed. There is, of course, no recipe for all situations and on occasion the counselling may lead to a mutual decision to end a relationship. More commonly, it helps clients find a way forward to which all parties can commit.

How do I find out more or book an initial session?

To find out more about our relationship / couples counselling service please contact us on 0131-668-1440, or email us as info@edinburghtherapy.co.uk.

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